Sacred Union

To me, sacred union is not so much about being with the right person or finding someone that fits you perfectly.

I believe that would be a natural product of what comes before: an inner union with ourselves, our God, source, higher self.

You can find it in every religious scripture, as within - so is without, God is in you and you in God.

We, who seek the spiritual in any form, can find it everywhere we look; it is all over the internet, and it's easy to get caught in the how's and why's of it. And not all of it will resonate or, for that matter, help at all.

But are we getting it? Doesn't look like it, and that is merely because we have been trained to live outside of ourselves for all our lives. That's hard to change, but it is possible.

Sacred union, in my experience and opinion, also doesn't have much to do with gender either. Even though what we learn about divine or sacred union is about balancing and connecting to the masculine and feminine polarities in ourselves, we can be it all, however we identify. When asked about whose wife the woman who married many men would be in heaven, Jesus simply replied that there was no such thing up there. Heaven could be androgynous for all we know. (Matthew 22:30 and more)

For me, the unification starts with me, and how I do it may help somebody.

• Sit still with your own thoughts, even if they are racing, it's okay; they are yours, and it's okay for them to pop up. I find it useful just to observe them. For the longest time, I tried to push them out, but now I'm a little better at observing them, listening to them reveal things to me, and learning from them. I'm not ashamed of my thoughts anymore, and there is no need for you to be either. They are there to reveal your subconscious truths, your belief systems. Give yourself mercy, be gracious to yourself; nothing is right or wrong here, they are simply there to teach you. As I did this as a practice, I found that unwanted thoughts did actually teach me more than any sermon or lecture I ever attended. I learned to make peace with them, and if there was something I didn't like, I simply said, okay, so now you have shown yourself, I don't agree, and now you may go. This gets better with practice, and with time, they don't sting as much as they did in the beginning.

• To reach that inner union doesn't have to be hard. To me, it's about reconciling with yourself first and foremost, realizing that you are your own person, with a spirit and soul that doesn't really need others to be complete. When I learned to accept myself as I am, without the weight of others' beliefs and opinions, I immediately started to feel more whole. I didn't need to be what others wanted me to be; all I needed was to be at ease with myself, accept myself as I am, and accept that, after all, those other people's opinions didn't help as much as I expected them to. Because, as I grew my own love for myself with all my pros and cons, and to be of better service to myself, I also started to be of better service to others. Love others as you love yourself, do unto others as you would yourself. Well, if you can't do good to yourself, how can you really do good to others? And with being in union with yourself, you are in union with others. I see myself as an individual spark of the divine, a ray shining from the universal sun, just as we all are. That's just how I see it; you may see it slightly differently, and that's okay. Do you. What I will suggest is: take everyone else off your pedestal and go sit on it yourself. They have their own pedestals to be on. Give yourself the care, love, and respect you feel you don't get from others. Stop the blame game and become your own lover.

This is a simplification, but we dont always have to find many words to get a message across. Of, course, if there are questions, we are always ready to answer, but the truth is really in each and everyone of us.